Mencari

Mataku melihat tapi tak nampak
Hidungku menghidu tapi tak berbau
Telingaku mendengar tapi tak berbunyi
Lidahku mencecah tapi tak merasa

Dalam kurungan apakah aku ini
Minda berkata hatiku sepi
Hatiku bertanya apa yg dicari
Jawab mindaku tanyalah diri

Diri bertanya siapakah aku
Perempuan, lelaki, isteri, suami
Tanpa dia lengkapkah aku
Tanpa aku lengkapkah diri

Bumi dijajah harta dicari
Buat mengisi kantong yang kosong
Hati yang gundah ubat diberi
Tiada juga sihat malah dipasong

Penawar dicari
Ubat hakiki
Ilmu menjelma penyelamat diri
Aqidah menjadi tiang seri
Buat penyuluh jalan berduri

Meniti Hari

Melihatkan laut yang tak bertepian
Mendongak ke langit yang tak berpenghujung
Mencari noktah diri yang kesepian
Sampai bilakah langit akanku junjung

Keseronokan dicari
Harta diburu
Untuk menampung kekosongan diri
Untuk mengisi keperluan kalbu
Dimanakah ketenangan
Dimanakah inspirasi
Siapakah aku dibumi ini

Ku mencari jawaban kepada soalan
Dari pagi hingga ke malam
Dari semalam hingga ke esoknya
Mengapa, dimana, bagaimana, siapa
Takkan berakhir jika sesalan difikir

Akhirnya terlentok ku sendirian
Walaupun begitu benak tetap berkata
Pulanglah kamu kepada Ilahi
Dialah pelindungmu dalam meniti hari

mayang sari kusalah menilai

Tips from Oprah Winfrey

HEAR WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO SAY ABOUT MEN

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't 'be friends'. A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle.


If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is
Don't stay because you think 'it will get better'
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior.* Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...
Even if he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.


Never borrow someone else's man.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...
Compromise is two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...
There is nothing cute about baggage....
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...

A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...
Look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted

Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.*
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phil

You should know that:
You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing.

If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one.

They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices.
Make the right one.

Ladies take care of your own hearts....

Awet Muda

Hmm...nowadays, if you look-up in the newspapers, bukan main banyak lagi advertisements for aesthetics. From wrinkles to hair treatment, body sculpting, total makeover and what not. Bottom line is, all these companies will make money through telling people that they are able to make their customers look better after undergoing treatments.

Look at yourself and ask yourself which part of you that you do not like that much. Then ask yourself, 'why don't I like this part of me?', 'did I just noticed that part of me that I didnt like or it has been there all the while but only now it has become a problem to me?'

For most of us whose age number is not already listed in the 30 day calendar, generally the problem is with weight, wrinkles and receeding hairline. Betoi tak??
I've seen many who signed up with various packages to at least 'maintain' their looks. Spend a couple of thousands for a certain number of treatments. The result? Its all up to the individuals will power to improve. In the end, everyone wants to look young and lawa.

Lets talk about the weighty issue. I chose to talk about WEIGHT because we can do something about weight. There is nothing we can do about wrinkles other than creams or plastic surgery, there is nothing we can do about receeding hairline other that hair implants or wearing a toupe. But we can definitely do something about our weight. Do you want to do something about it? If you want, do you have the will power to follow through? Orang Melayu kata istiqamah? Whom are you doing it for ?Yourself, husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend? Why do you want to do it?
Before we terjun into doing something, we have to talk to ourselves FIRST. Orang melayu cakap kena muhasabah diri dahulu. Only WE know our own weaknesses.

Doesn't matter if you want to loose or put on weight. Calories you put in has to be the same as calories that goes out in order to MAINTAIN your body weight. Its simple maths. So, now comes the part of TIME. I bet most people have watched the TV series 'The Biggest Losers'. They compete to loose weight within a certain period of time. They worked out, eat less, chose what they eat. Those are the extremes.

For us, I recommend yang sederhana. Although the result will not be immediate, it is life time guarantee. Just try this. For people who wants to loose weight, instead of 3 pcs of bread for breakfast, reduce it to 2. If used to nasi lemak 1 bungkus, only eat 3 quarter of it. Jangan tamak to see the result cepat because if you starve yourselves, you will come to a point of going bingeing. Then you will be a yoyo dieter. You always hear that if you're on a diet you cannot eat nasi lemak, roti canai, santan, sweets, the list goes on and on....

I believe in having less is more. For people who wants to go on a diet, you can eat anything that you want, but CONTROL the PORTION. Because there will be a time you just feel like eating your favourite food but you know the calories will cover your day's quota, have a little, just to satisfy your 'cravings'. This is called WILL POWER people.

For those who have tried everything but still no result, I strongly suggest you meet-up with the doctor for some clinical tests. There might be something amiss in your system.

For my muslim friends especially the ladies, amalkan surah Al-Waqiah 35-38. Maksudnya:
Sesungguhnya Kami menciptakan mereka (bidadari-bidadari) dengan langsung. Dan Kami jadikan mereka gadis-gadis perawan. Penuh cinta lagi sebaya umurnya. Untuk golongan kanan.

Wala haula wala qhu wata illa billah.
Insyaalah akan awet muda.

Discovery

Hey guys, bear with me. This is the first day that I tried opening a blog. Yesterday, an old friend of mine, although she's not old....I consider her mature with knowledge of life experiences "collected" through many exposures of friends and life's trials and errors. Her name is Wong May Wan.

I would like to dedicate this first blog of mine to her, for her support, for her friendship, her care for me as a friend, and last but not least....her insisting me to join her sales team...!!! Jangan marah May.....

Without you visiting me yesterday, lepak-lepak in my condo, taking pictures of my ugly kittens, talk about old times, present and future, ( I appreciate your style of not "imposing" ), I would not have started what I think I would like to do in the future.

Thank you again from the bottom of my heart. This is for you May......muahhhhhhh!!!!